Some things I wish I knew about girls when I was younger

[I wrote the following to answer a guy’s question on what I wish I knew about women when I was younger]

The first time I threw a girl against a wall to kiss her and saw her eyes light up with pleasure changed the game for me. Until then I thought you had to treat them like precious flowers.

I’ve had my share of partners, but women introduced me to anal, choking her (I’ll never forget when she looked at me, still in bed after a great session, and said “You choke well”), being rimmed, public sex, deep throating, and other things like that.

For that matter, I’ve introduced many women to increasing emotional intimacy, allowing oneself to be vulnerable, practicing safer sex, honesty, and things the mainstream view has a problem accepting men often excel at.

To answer your question, I wish I knew mainstream views on sexuality hardly correlate at all with behavior and beliefs. Make a girl feel understood and supported so she knows you won’t judge her and you’re virtually guaranteed she’ll say or do something that breaks a mainstream preconception that only stifles everyone’s free expression of their sexuality.

The three-night blow job that was one of my best sexual experiences

I’m going to tell a story about blow job duration that changed my view of what pleasure and joy a woman could give me. I think it can make the world a better place. I wish every woman knew the things this woman did. A man can learn a lot from the experience — both how to give and what more you can expect if you haven’t had great experiences like this.

I was dating a girl a few years ago with amazing oral skills — enthusiasm, deep-throating, great handwork, etc.

One night she’s going down on me. It’s great. I’m excited, feeling great, getting closer, closer… then she stops. I don’t remember the details besides that she stopped. I didn’t get blue-balled, but I was close when she stopped and kind of disappointed, but she was an awesome girl, so I was annoyed, but didn’t complain.

The next night she starts blowing me again. It’s great. I’m excited, feeling great, getting closer, closer… and she stopped again. This time I was more annoyed. Close only counts in horse shoes and hand grenades, not bullets and blow jobs. Anyway, I know she’s cool, so I don’t complain again.

The next night she starts blowing me again. I didn’t come despite being very aroused the past two nights. This time she had more enthusiasm than either of the first two nights, plus I was crazy excited before it started, and the blow job was insanely powerful.

I realized afterward that she had given me my first three-night blowjob. The first two nights were difficult teases to handle, but delivering on the third night made them more than worth it. She knew what she was doing the whole time and played at a level I hadn’t experienced before or even considered. No toys, no difficult positions… just her reading my body well and doing something enthusiastically.

A couple lessons learned (everyone already knows them, but you can know them on different levels)

• A blow job is more than physical technique. Enthusiasm goes farther. But there are mental levels past mere teasing.
• However good your technique, you can learn more. I learned to improve my mental game from her.
• I call teasing when you don’t deliver torture. Unless it’s someone’s kink, nobody likes it. Teasing when you do deliver can liven things up.
• The brain is a powerful sex organ to those who know how to use it.
• People who talk about one hour being long for a blow job don’t realize the potential. Hands help a lot, but the brain helps more.

Why I like learning things the hard way

What in life have you learned the easy way?

Here’s what you learn the easy way: cookies and ice cream taste good and a few things like that.

The hard way: nearly everything of value or that helps you succeed in life because most people don’t take time to learn it and sit eating cookies and ice cream.

(Hmm… I think I should note I like doing things the easy way. Learning the hard way ends up making for great stories though).

A way to kiss a girl passionately that will make her melt every time and she'll remember for years

Want to get your girl wet in broad daylight?

Usually when I walk with a girl I lead her by having her arm in mine or putting my arm around her waist. Sometimes I lead her to jaywalk in the middle of the block, when cars are lined up down the block to come toward us.

Without warning her, I grab her waist, pull her toward me so she’s facing away from the traffic that will come our way when the light turns green for them. Then I kiss her so she doesn’t know when the traffic will come. I can see traffic if I open my eyes so she has to trust me to keep us both safe. The girl holds on to me tight, like in a scary movie. Also, everyone sees us kissing in the middle of the avenue, so it shows balls. Once a car honked at us — the person at the wheel was laughing with us (probably envious).

I model the kiss on these famous ones and one girl unprompted said it reminded her of them.

Ask any girl if she wants to be kissed like this.

and

If you havent kissed a girl like this or the picture above you havent lived. And neither has she.

When the traffic starts coming, I pull her toward the curb either walking calmly or running like we just committed a crime together.

Simple, quick, easy, but dominant and gets her adrenaline going. One girl commented on how amazing the experience was when I ran into her for the first time at least a year after it.