Whoever thinks calls same night lays meaningless doesn’t know what they’re talking about

The mainstream world characterizes one night stands and same night lays as meaningless, casual, devoid of emotion, and purely animalistic. While I see nothing wrong with meaningless, casual, and animalistic, I’ve found them to be meaningful, passionate, and liberating (and often animalistic, which is a great combination).

I think when most guys say they don’t like same night lays they’re just regurgitating what girls say, envious that they can’t do it. When girls say they don’t like them, they know they can have sex any night they want if they drop their standards enough, so they’re associating quick sex with a guy they don’t find attractive. They may not realize it, but they’re risking never knowing what it’s like to get swept off their feet by a man who excites them.

Well, any sex is bad with someone who repulses you. The sex wasn’t bad because it came the night they met, it was bad because they didn’t find someone attractive.

When a man learns attraction and meets a lot of girls, great, mutually exciting interactions happen. It’s awesome to have a new girl jump your bones because she’s so excited from your sweeping her off her feet. And then tell you the next morning how much she wants to see you again.

If you want same night lays, keep learning attraction, keep meeting lots of women, and enjoy your passion! Sweep women off their feet so they’re crazy about you.

Understanding those who try to make you feel guilt because of their guilt, inadequacies, or other inhibitions will help you ignore them.

Testimonial

Here is a testimonial from a recent client. He was great to work with—though not fearless at the start, by about halfway through, his enthusiasm started soaring. By the end he was approaching girls without hesitation and keeping up engaging conversations without running out of things to say. At the beginning he would eject quickly.

The Spanish woman he ran after was the turning point. He ejected quickly because she said she was in a hurry to meet her friends. As many guys do, he accepted that and let her go on her way. From a few yards away, I couldn’t hear anything but I could see her body language, which inexperienced guys don’t notice because they’re too busy figuring out what to say, and it was very positive. So when they parted I expected she’d be receptive to him re-approaching. I gave him some words to re-approach her with and had him catch up to her, something he had never done, since he had to run a bit.

She opened way up when he talked to her again, very flattered that he took the initiative (read: had the balls) to catch up to her. I think it was his first number of the day, probably his first second-approach of his life, and a big turning point where I think he realized he was following unhelpful rules for no reason, opening him up to taking risks he never thought of before.

A lot of guys think chasing down a girl makes him look like he’s trying too hard. I know I used to. But it doesn’t necessarily. If you do it because you’re trying hard it does, but if you do it because you feel like it and you expect the outcome you want, it’s balls-y and dominant, since you do what most men fear to. And, man, does a girl who liked a guy melt when he re-starts the conversation. In his case to say he wasn’t going to take her time, but they were going to get together again to follow up what started as a great interaction.

Anyway, with the door open to try new things, toward the end of the session he approached a ridiculously hot French girl who was dressed fierce with flowing blond-streaked hair. I was amazed at how hot she was and how he kept her looking up at his eyes for a while before getting her number. After that I realized he hadn’t been putting girls’ names with their numbers in his phone because he hadn’t gotten numbers like this before, where if you don’t keep track of them, you’ll forget which is which.

Along the way he also approached three girls who were part of a mixed group of five or six people. Soon he was hugging all three at once, with them moving toward him to get the hug, followed by him bringing the cutest one of them to the dance floor where he spun and dipped her (following the techniques we practiced at the coffee shop). He also got the number of a cute tall black woman in a tight yoga outfit on Second Avenue that he stopped with a street approach. I’m mentioning this one because of how much I love fit girls in tight yoga outfits.

Anyway, in his words:

Prior to my one on one with The Doctor, my success with approaching and number closing has been pretty sporadic. I was familiar with a bunch of pick up theory having read up on various seduction material however I haven’t really been implementing it. I even have  taken a bootcamp a few years ago with a pua school that is focused on direct game, but I became stale after getting in an exclusive long term relationship.

I met up with the Doctor at one of the hundreds of Starbucks in NYC and helped me break down my goals for the day’s training.  He then analyzed my current level of game and had me open a few sets. He was able to quickly deconstruct my strengths and weakness to my approach. I made some adjustments to my body language and mindset  and within the hour I was able to re-open a super hot spanish chick who I encountered on the street who was running to meet up with friends.  I hesitated but with a slight push from The Doctor I went into a full on sprint and re-opened her and got a number close.  Throughout the eight hour training I must of done more than a hundred approaches.

I also want to mention the Kino training was invaluable,  The Doctor had me practice with a cute asian girl outside a coffee shop various kino techniques which I was then able to add to my toolset for use later that evening during the training.  Later in the training I was having such a great time, that I didn’t even need to be prodded into approaching. I ended up number closing four different girls, and have two dates lined up for the week.

This has been a real eye opening experience, I was able to expand beyond my comfort zone and help propel my game.

I would recommend training with The Doctor to anyone interested in taking their game to the next level.